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The 100/0 Relationship Principle
It’s been said that “Eighty
percent of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships.”
When we look back at the end of our lives, what will really
matter? Five words…the
quality of our relationships. The
most important things in life are not things.
For this reason, I’ve decided to share with you an excerpt from
the 100/0 Principle by Al Ritter:
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships
with others? It's the 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the
100 percent) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0 percent) in
return. Implementing the
100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment
to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and
give 100 percent. The 100/0
Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships
are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us
must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply.
For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers,
family, and friends.
Step 1 – Determine what you can do to make the relationship
work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person,
whether he/she deserves it or not.
Step 2- Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada
Step 3- Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how
annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don’t take the bait.
Step 4- Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often
we give up too soon, especially when others don’t respond in kind.
Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even
toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When
this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to
being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/thoughts like
"that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong,"
"I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you,"
“that’s just the way it is.” “I need to tell you what I know,”
etc. Instead use Learner
statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try
to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I
wonder if there is anything of value here," “I wonder if…”
etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take
authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the
other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well.
Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something
approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the
individuals involved, their teams, their organization and their
families.
All my best,
Jerilyn
Jerilyn A.
Keen
President
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Board
of
Directors
Timothy
Gage
Chairman
Jerilyn
A. Keen
President
Fred
Martin
Director
Chris
Bingaman
Director
Dr.
Chris Boyatzis
Director
Ted
Hancock
Director
Dr. Troy Williamson
Director
Gene McCarty
Treasurer
Erica Frey
Secretary
Advisory
Committee
Jerilyn
Keen
Scott
Constantini
Stephen
Gaito
Robert
Vanderwall
William
Rossnock
Joseph
Talarico
Dr.
Liz
Ciaravino
Thomas
Bell
William
Weber
Larry
Weidman
John
Gigunto
Matthew
Yonkin
Joshua
Weisen
Mental
Health Director- Dr. Frederick Maue
Medical
Director-
Dr.
Vikas Passi
Psychological
Consultants
Dr.
Matthew Emery & Associates
Dr.
Antoinette Hamidian
Roger
Smothers & Twin Tier Psych Services
Dr.
Sara Camaerei
Lycoming
Therapuetic Wrap Around Services, Inc.
Pamela
McCloskey
Dr.
Hugh Smith & Associates
Karen
Livingood
Dr.
Elizabeth Ciaravino
Dr.
Jennifer Hartey
Dr.
Kenneth Kindya
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News from our Corporate Office.. |
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PATH
would like to welcome the new member of the Board of Directors, Dr.
Troy Williamson. Dr. Williamson is a retired Warden of the
Lewisburg Penitentiary among other penitentiaries and has over 22 years
experience in the prison and correctional facility environment! Dr.
Williamson earned
his doctorate in Philosophy at the University Of Texas A&M and
achieved his Masters in Vocational Rehabilitation at the University Of
Texas. Dr. Williamson holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from
the University of Texas as well. PATH looks forward to his
contributions and guidance as a board member and we are proud to have him
as a part of the PATH family.
President, Jerilyn A. Keen, instructed a “Suicide Prevention &
Self Injury” training at the Corporate Office in March.
This training gives an in depth look at the root of the topic, how
to detect early warning signs of potential suicide or injury to one’s
self, and methods to help prevent these incidents.
Many of the attendees stated that the training “Was
challenging and made me aware of signs that I was never aware of”.
The group consisted of group activities as well as role plays to
give a real life simulation and feel to the situations discussed.
Human
Resource Manager, Heather Bickhart
has been hard at work instructing the PA Treatment & Healing staff in
CPR and First Aid. This is a
mandatory training that all PATH staff must have if they are in direct
contact with the youth we serve. Heather has been through her first couple
trainings and is feeling confident in her abilities as an instructor as
she keeps progressing along. Heather’s
goal is to drive home the key points of the training while making the
training fun and informative for those who attend.
On March
3, 2010 the Corporate Office hosted a D&A Clinical Staff Meeting for
the D&A counselors instructed by D&A
Facility Director, Michele Barrows and Program
Compliance Manager, Erica Frey . The day was spent providing training
on Dept. of Health regulations, PATH policy and procedure and reviewing
and consulting on difficult D&A cases in order to improve the skills
and knowledge of our D&A Counselors. Erica stated that PATH recently
completed the yearly site reviews conducted by OMHSAS. Across the board
was great success in the results!. Congratulations to everyone in the
Intensive Adolescent Program and all those who assist in making this
program a great success!
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Happening” at our Centers…
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PATH
– Bloomsburg: New
beginnings are the focus of the Bloomsburg center this past month.
Program Manager, Jodee
Strine is proud to announce the positive discharge of Gavin
W., Liz M., Coty Q., and Ryan L. The Bloomsburg center wishes these youth the best of luck in
their future endeavors. Outstanding performance team! Keeping in the spirit of new beginnings, the youth of the
Bloomsburg center have been studying relationship building and
communication skills and participating in group activities to
strengthen these skills.
The youth at the Bloomsburg
center were treated to two guest speakers this past month.
Katelyn Boudman
spoke to the Day Treatment clients about overcoming addiction.
Katelyn is a recovering addict building on 5 years of sobriety!
She gave an in depth look at the struggles she faced on a
daily basis while in recovery and allowed the clients to share their
experiences and helped them realize that they are
not
alone. Beth Sweeting from the Women’s Expectations Center, spoke to the
youth on relationships and reinforced our 4 Cornerstones of
Relational Intimacy. Beth had the youth participate in group
activities that made the education on relationships fun and exciting
and memorable. A special thanks to these two volunteers for sharing
their stories and helping our youth build a stronger foundation.
The Alternative Education
Program was hard at work creating clay models of their studies in
plate tectonics and invertebrate animals. These clay models allowed the children to generate their own
creations as they studied the detailed parts of each group. A special thanks to Secretary,
Miss Diane from the youth and staff at the Bloomsburg Center for
all her hard work and dedication to the center. Miss Diane goes over
and above the call of duty and everyone at the center wanted to give
their thanks. Great
performance Diane!
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PATH
– East Stroudsburg: Spring is in the air at East
Stroudsburg. The youth spruced up the East Stroudsburg center during
an art class by designing spring time themes on the walls of the center as
a project. Aside from adding a
spring theme, the entire center has been giving 100% at improving the
appearance and attitude of the center. The youth are designing posters
that will be displayed throughout the center with positive and uplifting
messages that they have designed to inspire each other.
The Alternative Education Program students have been
studying the history of planet earth. However, the education is anything
but standard. The students
completed a “fiber to fashion” project that studied the relationship
between the products used to design and make clothes and the effects the
materials have on the environment.
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PATH –
Honesdale:
The Honesdale center has
come roaring into March like a lion and is planning to keep the momentum
for the rest of 2010. Program Manager, Mark Bonifiglio is proud to announce two additional
pledge members, Nikole and Ryon,
which brings the total to 5!! Nikole
used her reward option to introduce the center to Arroz con Pollo, which
is a native dish from her culture. Ryon
is not just earning his Pledge status, but he is also preparing his senior
project with Head Community
Monitor, Lee Viola, by building a bookcase and planning on becoming
certified in First Aid and CPR before he graduates in June. Amazing job Ryon and
Nikole!
The
Honesdale AEP students are ready to attack the PSSA tests in April like a
lion and take great pride in their success. The students are focused, eager, and determined to succeed.
Some of the IA and AEP youth were introduced to an excellent group
exercise, the Welded Ankle. The
groups participated in a “trust walk” which blindfolds certain group
members and the other members maneuver the blindfolded members through
obstacles and tasks. The
exercise was a success as all the groups trusted in each of their group
members and relied on the support of each other to overcome the obstacles
and reach their destiny. The
groups took what they had learned and applied it to their mission and
journey at PATH as they put their trust in the staff to help them overcome
and succeed.
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PATH –
Lehighton: The
Sweet Sixteen is not the only thing sweet in the month of March.
The youth of the Lehighton center have been preparing for the
Easter holiday by coming together in group and making “sweet”
Easter candy with D&A
Counselor, Jess Hansen. The
youth learned, much like the NCAA teams in the basketball
tournament, the importance of teamwork to achieve success. The clients were
instructed
on the importance of confidentiality by Case
Worker, Scott Pomicter and Clinical
Supervisor, Marisa Anderson-Riolo and the necessary steps to
avoid breaches in confidentiality, with great positive response from
the clients.
The
Lehighton center continues to strive towards their goal of $100.00
in the Pennies for Patients program and are very close to beating
that goal! Great job
team! On April 17th,
the Lehighton center will be participating in the Autism Awareness
walk at the Lehigh Parkway in Allentown, PA. The youth are excited to take part in this walk after Miss
Dana gave a detailed class for the clients on Autism. The class
gave the participants an understanding at the importance of bringing
awareness to this struggle that many children battle with.
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PATH
– Middleburg:
Middleburg
has earned their stripes! The
Halfway House recently instituted the new ratings system board, proudly
showing off the American flag’s colors and more importantly, the
progress and growth of the residents. Program
Manager, Michael Burns, placed the constant reminder to the residents
that nothing is given…but has to be earned! In
the same frame of mind, Michael also reports that the hard work and
dedication given by the Halfway House has been earning respect in the
field. Michael reports that in
a recent meeting with CBHNP, a care worker had made mention that they
noticed that the PATH Halfway House does more for their residents than
others. The Halfway House
would like to thank Support Staff,
Rick Hornberger, for his service of over 3 years. Rick is looking forward to spending more time with his family after
17 years of service to the youth in Pennsylvania. Best of luck and thank you for your service!
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PATH
– Milton:
“Come Together” by the
Beatles is the theme of the Milton Center this month. Program Manager, Jon Sharpe,
explains that he is proud of the teamwork between the Intensive Adolescent
and After School Evening Program has been beneficial to the success of the
Milton center. Clinical Supervisor, Amanda Rathburn & Day Treatment Supervisor, Jen Wolfe have been coming together and
taking a more in depth look at the clients in each program. Successfully, they have been able to address the needs of some of
the youth and have placed them in the programs that will address the needs
of the clients more efficiently.
The
Alternative Education Program students have been coming together in groups
to create and design their own electronic motors. Teacher, Kurt Eck states that he is impressed by the creativity and
teamwork of the students. Teacher
Curtis Munoz, has been giving the student the chance to develop their
life skills by having the students simulate care for an infant. The students have been carrying around water balloons to simulate
the experience. The youth from
the different programs at the Milton center continue to donate their time
in a community service effort to help the St. Andrews Church each week
prepare their Community Meal for those who wish to come together in
worship. Keep up the team work
Team Milton!
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“Great teamwork is
the only way we create the breakthroughs that define our careers”
– Pat Riley, NBA Basketball Coach
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PATH–Scranton:
The
IA clients have been working hard in group exercises such as PATH
relationship based training, goal setting, and daily living skills, as
they strengthen their skills and achieve success. The AEP students have been broadening their minds in the class
room as they tackled the titans of Greek mythology in English class and
decipher statistics and equations in Math class. The Community Service program is eagerly looking
forward at doing
their part at keeping Pennsylvania beautiful as they participate in the
Keep PA Beautiful program this year. The Scranton center would like to wish Christian
the best of luck as he was positively discharged from the center. “Christian showed great improvement and soared to new heights
and abilities during his time with us at PATH” stated Regional Director, Scott Constantini.
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PATH
– South Montrose: The
youth at the South Montrose center are strengthening their foundations
one step at a time. The Alternative Education Program has been hard at
work preparing for the PSSA testing.
The students have been hard at work building their communication
skills and public speaking skills by presenting their 2 page reports on
different wildlife in Pennsylvania. The Intensive Adolescent clients are
becoming stronger in their journey to success. The clients have been focusing on building leadership skills and
learning how to properly manage their anger. Program Manager, Walt Gieski explained that as a reward to the
students and clients for their hard work, some of the groups and classes
have been held outside during the beautiful weather. Walt explains that the youth have been highly motivated by the
change in scenery for the groups and classes. The youth in the Community Service program have been taking
advantage of the nice weather to improve the appearance of the roadways
in the Montrose area by cleaning up litter and debris for the benefit of
the community and the environment.
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– State College: Stay
focused…stay positive! This is the mindset of the staff and
clients at the State College facility. The Intensive Adolescent
clients have been generating motivational statements that have been placed
throughout the center as a constant reminder of what is needed to continue
the path to success. Program
Manager, Kevin Ransom said that it is uplifting to the staff to see
the clients finding the strength and words to motivate each other and
bring an overall pride to the center that show that they are a team and
not a group of individuals. The community service program is
starting to gain momentum as the weather becomes favorable in Happy Valley
and the clients are looking forward to adding their contributions to
society in 2010. State College would like to welcome Clinical
Supervisor, Sue Patterson and Community
Monitor, Tammy Moul to the State College PATH team.
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PATH
– Williamsport: New ratings system means new
attitudes at the Williamsport center. The Williamsport center has recently added the new ratings system
and new ratings board to the center for the different programs. Regional
Director, Robert Vanderwall, states that the positive attitudes are
not just with the youth, but across the board at the center. Robert stated that an increase in positive discharges of clients is
proof that the staff are committed and dedicated to the success of the
child and the child taking a vested interest in their success, rather than
going through the motions.
The Be Challenged program
recently made some improvements to the program with the help of Gander
Mountain offering the program a very generous discount on the purchase of
new winter boots for the clients. PATH would like to thank Gander Mountain
in Muncy, PA for their generosity!
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The
following staff were also nominated for Employee of the Month for
March:
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Linda
O’Hagan, Dean
Of Students - Honesdale
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James
Shoemaker, D&A Counselor –
East Stroudsburg
We thank these staff
for their dedication to our Agency!
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Welcome to our family….
Glenn Whitt,
Caseworker – Bloomsburg
Kirk Lehman, Dean Of Students
– Bloomsburg
James Sauers,
Support Staff – Middleburg
Sue Patterson,
Clinical Supervisor – State College
Tammy Moul, Community Monitor
– State College
Tina Cummings, Caseworker -
Williamsport
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Ashley Kennedy, Williamsport, April 4th
Courtney Lange, South Montrose, April 7th
Doreen Armitage, South Montrose, April 11th
Dolores A. Frick,
Honesdale, April 18thth
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Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you
don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can
accomplish! And what your potential is”
– Anne
Frank
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PATH would like to take time to thank all the
generous individuals and businesses that have given to our centers and to
the children we serve. These
are the people that make up the foundation that makes our agency strong
and allow us to continue to serve the children and the communities in
which they live. Thank you from the PATH family and the children we serve.
MARCH 2010 DONATIONS
Jessica
Hansen
1 Computer With Accessories
Dave
Long, Millerstown PA
1 Dell Computer with Flat Screen Monitor
Pennsylvania
College Of Technology, Williamsport PA
20 Office Chairs
The
United Way of Lycoming County
Cash Donation
Joshua
Weisen, Corporate Business Manager
1 Large Bag of Men’s Clothing
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April 1st , 2010 –
Dean’s Meeting
– P. Charney (At The Scranton Center)
April 8th, 2010- Safety Committee
Recertification – PennSafe Michael Cuff (Corporate)
April 14th, 2010- Manager’s Meeting – J. Keen (Corporate)
April 23rd, 2010- Exploring Current Drug Trends with
special guest: Maxim Furek *BDAP & PCB
April 28th, 2010 – Experiential Group
Counseling – J. Keen (Corporate)
May 5th, 2010 – Clinical
Supervisor/ D&A Meeting – E. Frey & M. Barrows (Corporate)
**Some of the PATH trainings are available to the
public & other professionals. If interested in attending one of these
trainings, please contact Heather at 570-649-6855 to find out more.**

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